Kutest Kitties II

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Dont let the haters get to you

All along the meri-go-round the kitty chased the hater

"My mother taught me how to sew, And how to thread the needle, Every time my finger slips, Pop! goes the weasel. "

I went a-hunting in the woods, It wasn’t very legal, The dog and I were caught with the goods, Pop! goes the weasel.

I said I didn’t hunt or sport, The warden looked at my beagle, He said to tell it to the court, Pop! goes the weasel.

Up and down the city road In and out the Eagle. That’s the way the money goes, Pop! goes the weasel.

Half a pound of tuppenny rice, Half a pound of treacle. That’s the way the money goes, Pop! goes the weasel.[1]

All around the cobbler’s house, The monkey chased the people. And after them in double haste, Pop! goes the weasel.[9]

All around the mulberry bush, The monkey chased the weasel. The monkey stopped to pull up his sock, (or The monkey stopped to scratch his nose) Pop! goes the weasel.

A penny for a spool of thread, A penny for a needle— That's the way the money goes, Pop! goes the weasel.

Jimmy’s got the whooping cough And Timmy’s got the measles. That’s the way the story goes, Pop! goes the weasel.

I've no time to wait and sigh No patience to wait 'til by and by Kiss me quick, I'm off, goodbye! Pop! Goes the weasel

All around the chicken coop, The possum chased the weasel.[9] References
"1853 English Nursery Rhyme"
There are numerous American versions[10] as printed in Vance Randolph, Ozark Folksongs, Volume III, pp. 368–369. Randolph's #556, the A text. Collected 1926 from Mrs. Marie Wilbur of Pineville, Missouri. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pop_Goes_the_Weasel

Zombie Show Comparison

Howdy Campers
This blog is SPOILER CITY

Warning you are entering SPOILER TOWN!!!


And the race is on....and here comes
#1 iZombie


My all time favorite zombie show is the iZombie. I know all you walking dead fans are mad at me but I like to laugh a little.Give me a break. The main Chairacters name is Liv Moore. (too funny)I don't know if its because the shows characters or the fact that it is somehow hilarious even though its a zombie show its not apocalyptic. The best thing about this show is that the main character has a specific craving for brains. Somehow when she eats the BRAINS it actually allows her to have a glimpse into the dead persons mind. This is the reason it is my favorite because it is not only a horror show, its comedy and its also a murder mystery all in one not to mention I love psychics. So this show has all of my favorite Genre's. Not only that but it has quite a bit of personal drama to keep the telenovela loves attracted too. Now I absolutely love the new show that they just came out with which is very similar to this one in that it is not an apocalyptic show like the Walking Dead. It is also set in modern society this one is really moving on up to may favorite at a very fast pace.


Tied at #1 Santa Clarita Diet

This one just came out and this one is a close call for #1 just because the 2 main characters are my fav actors Drew Baremore and Timothy Olyfant please forgive me if I spelled that wrong. But I love this show it has a gross factor that is a little through the roof do not sit down and eat dinner while watching this one. One of my all time favorite shows is Dexter and this one has a killer plot just like Dexter. Unlike Liv on iZombie where she just went to the local Morgue and got a job, they have decided to try to kill bad people only. I love this because they have a conscience and they really do try to kill the bad people. Not only that but all the actors are some of my favorite actors and when you think it cant get any better here comes the Zombie from Dylan Dog OMG (Sam Huntington) this guy cracks me up!!! I loved the part in Dylan Dog where they had the zombie support group Ba hahahaha oh no they didn't !!!! I sooo wish that they had not killed of my ol pal Nathan Filion and I was also super happy to see Patricia Belcher from my fav show Bones. Oh that just made my day!!! This one has some great mid evil research going on that I am loving.(backstory) The husband Joel is looking into a cure for his beloved wife who oddly does not seem to interested in finding a cure. She is so happy with her newly found drive. I think it is funny about her impulse buying and I am not 100% sure that some of my good friend are not Zombies. ROFL I remember after watching the movie Dylan Dog thinking geee there are an LOT of people in my lil neighborhood that absolutely do have all the symptoms. Just a little twilight zone feeling to throw you for a loop. Ok Ok although this is the newest and most exciting I must move forward.
#2 The Walking Dead
Of Course my next fave is The Walking Dead,
I love Rick and Darrell and all of the main characters are at the top of my list.
Normally I would put this one at the top of my list because I have been watching it the longest but in my old age I am trying to stay away from depressing, heart wrenching, emotional game play; and the writers on The walking Dead really like to toy with my emotions. But COME ON I love The whole crew and I cant wait until someone gets a hold of Lucille and puts Negan in his place. That seems like a task for superman but I am sure Rick and Darrell can handle it as long as Carol and Mrs. Shone are there to have their backs with the neighboring cities. I just kinda get that Monotonous feeling like Scooby DOo because each season they encounter a worse group of people that is even more disturbing than the last. Even though its a monster fighting team they tend to have the real monsters are the people and to me that is soo true in real life. BUT WE GET ENOUGH OF THAT ON THE EVENING NEWS !!! Just when you think that the dead heads floating in the fish tank and the Govenor is the worst then the next season gets worse and each season there after gets worse. As a avid lover of Horror Movies and even horror shows I am not on the edge of my seat anymore I have sank down into my blanket and literally just want to say a prayer for the whole cast. I for one am ready for some just plain old good news like maybe Vegans I mean Negan whole crew just woops ate some kind of flesh eating zombie virus that got on their veggies. Idk but something not so Horror-ghoulish. AND WHERE IS MY BACKSTORY !!! ok enough of that on to the next

Tied with the walking dead at #2 is
ZNation. (Have Mercy)


Man I tell you the writers on this show leave no stone unturned. They have covered the back story they are working on a cure, they have the most hilarious plot about the man that got bit but survived and did not turn 100% Zombie. Murphy Although he looks like he has had just a little too much colloidal silver he is doing very good and trying to overcome. On the edge of my seat and although they have run into some really bad treats of their own species the main threat remains to be the Zombies and GMO zombies lol. They have the telekinetic zombies and they have got to get this cure thing protected. It is soo good this show I tell you I love the artistic endeavors that these writers go thought they are truly artists. The radioactive zombies that glow in the dark and the ones that run uber fast. Tooo much but I love it. I am so glad it did not get canceled.
That is all for now I shall be back!!!

Affiliate Marketing with Amazon

First, you go to amazon.com and scroll to the bottom.
You will see the link to Become and Affiliate
Go almost to the very bottom and you will see Become an Affiliate on the second row I have highlighted it in pink for you... here

Then you will see this page and you want to choose the one here that says join

Then you need to log in !!! If you already have an acct just use that info if not you have to make and acct. Make sure you use your real info because you can't get paid if you dont!!!!

After logging in

When you get here you actually have to have some web sites that already get some views. Maybe your blog or if you have a hobby or somthing you can add your facebook pages for creativity. Hype is the best way to get this type of site off the ground. For example you could make a giveaway for enter to win something but people have to like and share to be entered to win.
Here are a few of mine that I made for my hobbies. These are great and easy to cultivate new likes and views by boosting your post. Or offering up a enter to win free with like and share!!! Or like the page to win!!!




SO I have a facebook for my local town jobs and I get about 800 views on each post.

So on this for me I am going to add my job page. I actually made it once when I was unemployed because there was not one. But you can do bartering, tradeing sales. Like the online garage sale page. They get sooo junked up soooo fast that in my home county people start a new one every few months. Instead of using the town name they say Newer Bla bla County For sale Wanted and trade. Bartertown _____ county Or you could do Confessional you could do religious or hobbies or political. I have about 10 of these and I have one for cancer victums and one for jobs, writing and genealogy but the ones that do the best are the ones that people actually need.
So you may have to do a little work to be approved. I am not sure if the small amount of traffic I get will actually be helpful.

Once you have added your websites then you can go in and tell amazon what products to advertise on your site.
This next part is really inportant because you want to choose things that are relevant to your site but also commonly searched for a lot.

On the next section you have to go in and say how you bring people to your site. I did cover this up at the top. There are a lot of ways HYPE is the best and of course easiest to do. It may take a little money out of pocket to endure that the give away is worth people adding you. This is how you start your clientele.

LAST BUT NOT LEAST SIGN UP...THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART....READ THE ENTIRE TERMS AND CONDITIONS AND READ IT A FEW TIMES IF YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND IT. It clearly states you have to post on your site that you are and affiliate and you have to copy the statement. Do not skrimp on knowledge EVER!!!
thanks sooo much for reading my blog I hope it makes you a millionaire
If it does dont forget to send me some canvases because I am an artist lol
be sure to link my blog on your bookmark bar so you dont become a stranger.
as always bear hugz

Epilepsy, The Struggle is Real

Epilepsy the Struggle is Real

Winter 1992
Hello,


My name is Stacey I have had epilepsy since I was 12 years old. I am writing this blog because several people I love who have never had epilepsy before are now starting to experience seizures later in life at age 35-40. I do not know what caused my first seizure. I have always been sleeping or at least in bed when I had my seizures. Almost always at the same time depending on my sleep schedule. The doctors put me through many brains scans and EEG and they never determined any reason (physically) that could be causing these seizures.

What causes my Seizures?

The doctors do not know any physical reason I have my seizures. EEG was normal MRI was normal. I feel that it is the exhaustion, overexerting, lack of REM sleep and mental fatigue that causes my seizures. Although I do not believe that is the root cause but that is definitely a trigger. Also I think it could be neves in my neck that do not connect properly due to sleeping on my side 2 of my seizures I had I was sleeping on the couch on my side and one I was on a fold of chair like a little movable bed. I suffer from minor sciatica. Maybe the reason the doc never finds anything in my brain scans is because its the nerves in my neck that have been damaged. This is only a theory but seizures are caused by a misfire where your nerves in your brain are unable to communicate with your body correctly. When you have a seizure your brain waves go crazy. Also some people believe Bipolar disorder and Epilepsy are linked.(Brandy Ladnier) I believe this could be true based on the research from surgeries. There is a surgery for getting your epilepsy to stop. In highschool they showed a video of a person who had the surgery. “Corpus Callosotomy (CC) is a surgical procedure to control generalized seizures, primarily atonic seizures (drop attacks), by cutting the corpus callosum. The corpus callosum is a band of tissue that connects and transmits messages from one side of the brain to the other.” (google answers) So they go in and disconnect the callosum and when they get done your brain can no longer communicate from the right brain to the left brain. After this surgery your right brain and your left brain can no longer communicate at all. So you go to the closet to pick out a shirt and your right hand grabs one shirt and your left hand grabs another. Then you have to force one side of your brain to give in. When I was a child Mrs. Ortega my kindergarten teacher told me to use my right hand even though I was naturally left handed. This in turn could have caused me to become more left brained when I am actually a right brain thinker. This actually could be somehow overloading the theoretical hard drive of my brain and thus forcing my brain to think differently that it was naturally meant to do. I think that a seizure is similar to bipolar because it is your right brain and your left brain both working too hard on overdrive to solve the problems at hand. This for me only happens when I am sleeping or in sleep mode. So before I go to sleep I try to think of all the solutions for my problems and imagine they are no problem and pray to overcome. Sometimes if you just believe you can overcome it is good enough to let the mind rest easier.
Head Trauma 1

In 3rd grade I was playing in the woods with my best friend Wesley we had found some old metal bars that are used when pouring concrete and we were making a path through the woods down by Malette Park in Red River, NM. We were swinging those bars and breaking down limbs. He did not realize I was so close behind him and he hit me with the metal rod in the face. I was so freaked out at the sight of blood my lip was bleeding all over that I hopped on my bike and started riding back to the SageBrush Inn where Mom worked. My bike had been laying in a ditch and as I was riding it the chain was clicking because the chain had fallen off. So I bent down to look at it and when I came up I had moved over just a few inches to the right and there was an SUV directly in front of me. My face planted right into a parked SUV. I busted my lip right in half I had a headache for most of the day. I do recall besides the headache my lip did not hurt at all it was as if the nerves had been severed.
Repetitive Nightmares

I do remember having some really weird dreams one summer day I think I was in about 4th grade this is before I had a seizure. My dad moved to Albuquerque to be closer to me. My siblings were not to happy that they had to uproot their lives move from Kansas to New Mexico. I do not think I had ever had a seizure that anyone had known about at this point. Dad was living at an apartment complex in Albq. This could have been a warning I was having dreams of cartoons characters that were very vividly real almost as if I was partially awake while dreaming possibly because it was already light outside. These creepy cartoons were no animations I had ever seen before and they were all laughing at me. Hysterically laughing and completely terrifying they had creepy teeth and they were not as scarey as the feeling I got inside of not being accepted. I told my step Mom and she gave me some papaya pills. I went to work with her at Frito Lay for that day. THis may have been the summer of third grad I had faied that grade and had to go to summer school it was completely mortifying. My teacher did not fail me because I was actually failing she failed me because my Grandma had worked a division problem out on the paper and erased it so my teacher Mrs Davis took it upon herself to assume I was cheating and that my Grandma must be doing my homework for me. This was the farthest thing from the truth. Maybe I still do have these dreams but my epilepsy meds and any kind of downer I take for sleep aid do not make it easy to remember your dreams. I hadd quite a few other repetitive dreams that I can not longer remember at all.
Head Trauma #2

The year before I started having seizures I was in 5th grade. I had a mean girl talk me into doing a flip on a swing. (Yes you Shasta) as I was trying to hold myself up to flip around the Little witch pushed me and my forehead went straight into the concrete. I got a pretty good little knot on the top right frontal lobe. Mom freaked and rushed me to the doc as soon as I got home. The doc said I would be fine and not to go to sleep for a while in case of a concussion. He told Mom there was nothing to worry about and as far as I can recall there were not any scans done at that time.
Leading up to the seizure.
;1993 Winter

My first seizure.
I really don't remember much about the reason I had the seizure. I don't recall any major changes or anything.I do not remember Mom did not have any boyfriend or husband with I am not sure but I had received some severe embarrassment because once again I trusted someone who acted like they were my friend. (Shasta) The whole school laughed at me. Maybe 3 years straight of bullying and hate mongering finally took its toll. I had no real friends in the 6th grade that could really stand up for me or stop the bullies and I was far too outnumbered. I had a few good friends but they would only get bullied if they befriended me. I was always taking my earrings out worrying that some cholo was going to rip them out. I had quite a few enemies. We got a new teacher that year who was a great teacher but she was a real Ball buster Mrs. Durbin. She liked to intimidate and she reminded me very much of my Grandfather. She loved our class so much that each year that we moved up a grade she came up a grade with us. I do recall passing that year but just barely like the passing grade was 65 and I got a 69 which was not good. Mrs. Durbin could see the potential in us that and she would help us to be better and strive for perfection. I even gave up trying to be myself and just tried to fit in. I did try to start playing basketball that year and when my grades went down I had to quit and I was made fun of a lot more than normal. I was healthy I could out run almost everyone in my whole class. Now that I look back on it there may have been 1 head cheerleader that was pretty pist I could now outrun her.
Seizeure # 1

I don't remember anything from the night before. I have no idea what caused it. I am pretty sure it was cold and I was sleeping on the couch in front of the fireplace. After my seizure I just remember my first memory was when I noticed we were not heading towards the school we were heading to Taos. Mom was shocked that I asked "Where are we going Mom?" and she was like The hospital baby you had a seizure. She could not believe I did not remember getting dressed or anything up to that point we were almost out of Questa. I was freaking out because I did not remember getting myself dressed. Or getting in the car or taking my sister to school or if she rode the bus or if she was even there. Vague bad bad days. I do feel like my own brain has blocked out some of these terrible memories because they are soo hard to remember.
Seizure #2

Summer 1993

It was a little while later probably that summer I went to stay with my dad for a week when I got there Mom told him I was almost out of medicine and to be sure to get me a refill.Knowing the side effects of the meds made me drowsy and there were all kinds of bad problems that the medicine caused he decided not to get my meds refilled. Three days after the Tegretol was out of my system I had a Grand Mal seizure also known as generalized tonic-clonic. I wonder sometimes if I had weaned off the medicine if maybe I would not be still taking it today. I am on Epitol now but at that time I was on Tegretol also known as Carbamazephine. I do remember coming out of that seizure and having to go to the bathroom and running to the bathroom. I did not quite make it the toilet lid was down and I peed all over the toilet seat.
The feeling that no one cares.

Seizeure #3

Summer 1996
Questa New Mexico -
My seizures always come sometime around 6am the next seizure I had was most likely because my boyfriend dumped me and I was quite depressed. Despite the fact that my Pediatrician told me not to drink and to partake in marijuana if I had a choice and I found myself at a party to choose weed over alcohol and not to drink. Well I did not have any weed or money and quite frankly I had no one that gave a shit. I recall calling my bff and her only telling me that she did not know what to say. I turned on some horror movies and drank for quite some time. Even when I finally went to bed I lay there having an all out Pity Party crying and thinking about how my boyfriend left me for a girl that was 21. She was way way hotter than me had tattoos and could even draw better than me. I think just knowing this chick was 10x better than me sent me into a spiraling depression. That year I had to take my school picture with another huge bump on the forehead. Because the next morning when I went into this seizure I catapulted across the room and got carpet burn on the right side of my head. My bed was next to the wall on the right side of the bed. So I must have really been flailing to get carpet burn on the opposite side of my head. Head trauma on frontal lobe #2 I recall waking up and they were asking me who the president was. Mom was crying hysterically with both hand on my face I saw the tears running down her face and I thought what the hell is going on. WHO IS THE PRESIDENT? I had to think about it for a minute Clinton. Finally it came to me. Mom said I would have died that day if it was not for my step dad who was thinking quick as my lips were turning purple he breathed through my nose to keep me from dying..Tears falling now ... THANK YOU DEANO I love you!!
Seizure #4

Winter 1997

Mississippi

On my next seizure some time had gone by but once again I was up late drinking and sneaking around with my boyfriend. Against my Mother's wishes. I don't know if guilt can cause seizures. I really was a good kid and being so heavily brainwashed by my cult religion (Jehovah's Witness ) The guilt of doing wrong was quite heavier than when I was younger. At this point I was well aware of the consequences of my actions. Yes the very stress of knowing you could have a seizure can most definitely cause a seizure. That night my boyfriend stayed the night. His best friend was supposed to come get him but he did not. Mom had already had a drink so she was not about to drive and decided to let my boyfriend sleep on the couch. Knowing the impending doom of punishment that was about to come down on me the next day kept me sleepless and once again drinking. I did indeed have a seizure but this time it was at 7am. Maybe it is because it was a saturday.So there was no alarm clock. Maybe its because I was in MS where before I was in NM different time zone. All my seizure in NM were at 6am. All my seizures in MS were at 7am. Seeing me have a seizure freaked out my boyfriend sooo bad that he went out to the yard to wave the ambulance in and puked in the ditch. I apparently said quite a few weird things while I was having this seizure and one of the things I said was my boyfriends name. This is highly unusual. I do not recall anything from any of my seizures thus far ever. On this particular time the first memory I have was waking up in the ambulance.
Sleep Walking


After this Seizure Mom tried to get me on some different medication I went to a doctor in Vancleve MS I think his name was Dr. Goodman. He took me off of Tegretol and put me on Phenobarbital I was on it for maybe a week and Mom found me in the bathroom in the middle of the night sleepwalking I had turned the curing iron on and I was halfway through curling my hair but I was dead asleep. So needless to say they took me off of that medicine and put me back on Tegretol. Probably a year prior to this I got Mono and I had also had a severe yeast infection and I had Mononucleosis. This was the second time in my life that I had Mono the first time I was just a little kid and I was in head start I missed a month of school in head start. Mono can turn into Meningitis and Meningitis can cause seizures. This does make me wonder if there was a link to the illness and my seizure.

Seizure #5
2007

I had another seizure some time close to this I was a day sleeper and working nights so this was a small seizure and I did not go to the hospital this time. Because I did not feel the full pain that normally comes after a seizure and I did not want to get another brain scan.
Seizure #6
2008

My Mom had been diagnosed with cancer and when she had her lung removed the stress of the surgery was soo bad that I had another grand mal seizure. This one I was awake when it happened I felt my body pulling me I was actually on the phone with a family member who had called to check on Mom. I made my hunny wake me if anyone called. - Big Mistake- I was right in the middle of listing to my Aunt Ella tell me something medical importance and I started to have a seizure. My body pulled into fetal position to my right and that is all I remember. Once again I went to the doc and got another brain scan and everything was fine. So my meds stayed the same. Once again I was taking my meds and had a seizure. Moral of the story...
Getting uninterrupted sleep and 8 hours of sleep especially when you are under severe stress is soo important turn your ringer off do what you have to so that you can get your REM sleep.

After 4 years of struggling and battling cancer Mom died and I was there I did not have a seizure most definitely I think because there was a lot of family there to help me carry this burden. I fear if I had been there alone that I could very well have had a seizure after witnessing the death of my Mother. Family is so important and after the loss of a loved one people seem to scatter and become reclusive. I have tried to not become a recluse. After Mom died I started meditation at the time in the day or night when I feel the most vulnerable or susceptible to having a seizure. I make sure that I stay positive and do not reach out to family or friends that are negative or narcissistic it will most definitely send you into a spiral of depression. I do not turn my back on friends that need me I just ensure to call the ones that are the most caring and understanding when I am sad or depressed.

I am now trying to ween myself off of my medication I have been on since I was 12 years old. So that I can get pregnant.

Drawing Flower of life Nautical Star

I drew this sketch for a rough draft of a painting. I started with flower of life. Which u can easily make by starting with a circle and on any section of the edge put the center of your compas and do another where the lines connect.
Then connect all the lined going center topto bottom with straight lines.  In eash direction. Color with marker or watercolor or pancil. The traditional black and white looks good. I prefur the contrasting colors and in this one I opted not to erase the outer circle lines and make a spirol effect by adding more thickness to one side of the circle.

The star I did with markers Fine tip or brush tip markers and highlighters.

The outer edges.I did in pencil and to cut down on the waxy build up I used a paint brush and a little alchol to remove the was by wiping it with tp or an old rag.Note if you follow this method it is a non traditional star for Nautical stars it has 6 sides rather than the five for most Nautical works. I like this better because of the straight points in all directions.

Liquidartz Gallery

Here are a few of my favorites Nautical Star

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Bitter sun

 Nautical Stripe

 16 Point Star

 

Flower of Star 

 Basket Weave Celtic Star

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Gothic Star

 

Heavenly Star

                                                                Lineage Star Flower

 

Moon Star 

                                                                              Bulls eye Star

BUY ART

Kaleidoscope art Tutorial by Stacey Lynn

Hello World This is some of my Kalidascope photography I have done. With this photography I use an actual Kaleidoscope that I bought at a store called Wood that works. Its in New Orleans LA. It was not cheap but it has brought me great inspiration. You do not have to have a physical kaleidoscope to make money. You can use kaleidoscope apps. turquoise  coral It takes stones !!!
A lot of my loved ones have passed away before their time. I have some jewelry I take pics of. Especially turquoise. It makes such pretty kalidoscopes. But if you dont have any there are plenty of sites that have free use of their photos. It does not hurt to use those sites for your kaleidoscopes. Just google free stock photos.

Cancer has taken another, In need of HOPE.

My Mother in Law  Juanita Harris has been diagnosed with cancer. If you are able please donate to her doctor bills. Chemo and Radiation is the plan and the path is a long one as most of you know.
Everyone deserves the chance to fight it! If you would like to donate to the expenses please contact me.


UPDATE;  If you would like to contribute to the funds for the funeral services for Juanita Harris.

please contact me here. 

Holiday Heartache

How to survive the holidays after a death in the family.

I am sure anyone out there who has survived the holidays after a loved one passes is probably thinking well you just have to. I don't think there is any one way to cope. I know that ignoring the pain can be a solid answer but it is only a temporary answer for when the eggnog sets in the pain will surface again. I know that I personally have to hone my energies into another place and try to convert that emotional distress into some other more positive, therapeutic task. Some things I have done in the past to break the pain.

• first tendency is to just cry it out.  But if that does not help. 
• Paint something beautiful
• Blog something meaningful or inspirational
• Try to avoid grabbing the nearest punching bag
• Meditate (no really try it )
• Photo shop your heart out.  
• Remember the good times. 
• Think what that person would feel like if they know you were sad. 
• Join some contests.
• Write a book. 
• Make a web site. 
• Try to focus on a dream you have always had.  

 Remind yourself that its ok, to be happy again. When that person that was your lively hood or your reason for being has past away. Don't forget all the good advice they gave you. That is how you can keep them alive in your heart. Because they are not gone if you still hold onto the wisdom they instilled in you. Especially for those who have lost Parents and Grandparents.

It is a state of mind. Not to take the hollow feeling and bury it, but to build a little bridge in the soul so you can live with it. The water that flows under that bridge may be your tears and its ok to cry. Don't let your pain control you.
I actually am writing this to try to take my own advice. But if it were to help some sad people I know or don't know. It would be especially helpful to me to know that I could help.I guess the only thing worse than dealing with a loss of a loved one at the holidays is when you are in a particularly hard time in your life. Job issues and unemployment. Sales are low for some markets while others are booming so much that there is no time to breathe. This can be slow time for many business that are not retail.  My Grandpa once told me you can not ever be bored. Then he lectured me for a very long time about the hard times he lived through in the war. When he was shut into a tiny bunker with ten other men with no food and no way to  move for a week he told me, then you would know what bored was. I just looked at him when I was 6 years old and was like OK Gramps I am still BORED. lol. Moral of the story is these are the kinds of hard times that make my minor issues seem insignificant. Still it does not stop the frog in the throat or the pain in the chest that is associated with the grieving hearts club.

I love to commemorate my dead loved ones with making something that they loved. Like Grandma she loved Divinity. She would make it and send it to all the family. No matter how sad or upset I get I try not to fall into all out PITY PARTY mode but sometimes it just happens. It is never healthy to just mope all through the holidays so I guess that is why I am trying to vent this out via the World Wide Web. Sometimes its ok to just cry it out. It is not healthy to hold it in and bottle it up. For those of you who may be reading this because of a loved one that is grieving. Just know there is no time frame for the process to be over. There is a set amount of stages that they will go through.

 There are 5-7 stages of Grief.
1) Denial
2) Anger
3) Bargaining
4)Depression
5)Coping Reflection
6) Building Strength
7)Acceptance

http://www.recover-from-grief.com/7-stages-of-grief.html
http://psychcentral.com/lib/the-5-stages-of-loss-and-grief/000617


Just because you have reached acceptance does not mean that you will actually never feel the pain again. The stronger the love the more chance you will always feel that pain. Every now and then I have the luck to have a dream of Mom as she was like she is still alive and healthy. This can make my day for a few minutes when I wake up I forget that she is gone. It is as if she is still here with me. Then that harsh reality sets in that it was only a dream but I just have to be thankful it was a happy one. Not a sad one. The reality is that the steps of grief are not a one time occurrence, but with time they will go faster and sometimes it just a little inkling of pain and then that fabled acceptance that is just something that you have to do.

For all you out there hurting for their loved ones. Just get some hot chocolate and try to smile for today. We are still here and tomorrow we may not be.   
Live for today
Carde Diem

My Mother gave me this before she died as a Christmas gift knowing that one day soon I would be mourning her. It is hard to go forth but we have to try to be happy for the time that we have and not let the past or our own decisions rule us.

Often times I make art knowing I do not know the right path to take on most occasions. I enjoy painting and working on art that has a meaning. This one for me symbolizes the direction even if I am not sure which way to go I have something beautiful to look at to inspire me to move forward in what ever path I choose.



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